So I've decided to make this into an 'advice' blog because my main blog gets so many questions!!
If you ever wanna have a chat about ANYTHING ask is always open :)
and if you ever want to come off anon and chat in private just let me know and I'll be sure to reply privately.
Other than that I hope you have an amazing day ^.^
Anonymous: Hi. So I am a photographer and I am very passionate about what I do. Within 2-3 years, I hope to be a photographer full-time and make my living off of it. However, I am very shy and awkward around people that I don't really know. And since I'm a photographer I'll need to be able to please my clients, and pose them, and just work with them. I'm terrified that I will scare away my clients because I'm too awkward. Do you have any advice to help me? I hate being shy >.<
I’ll be your first client!! Anyways, It takes time to build up confidence to talk to people you don’t know very well, so I would start now. Just take little baby steps like your first goal can be to say hi to one person you walk past. Eventually you’ll get there! And I for one hear just about everyone saying they’re awkward (including me) so you’re definitely not alone!
Anonymous: my crush is my best friend… or at least my best guy friend. i know he likes me back, but he also tells me i'm his best friend. he's the nice guy at school who everyone likes and he can always make me smile and laugh and sometimes we act like we're a couple and sometimes we act like siblings, and i don't want to lose the relationship we have now. what can i do?
I think you guys have the potential to make a very nice couple. I understand that you don’t want to ruin your current relationship, but just think, you guys could become something so much bigger and better! When you look back at this when you’re older, you don’t want to say, “Wow, I wish I had just asked him out.” Even if you try and things don’t work out, you’ll say, “Well, we had a good run. But at least I tried, that’s all I can do.” Go for it!
Anonymous: hey boo.I've been thinking about this one boy lately and he pretty cought my mind.We started talking last year and since then we're closer than before.We fool around at the hall in school and similar, and he almost said he likes me.I asked him if he does and he just typed "<3".I don't know what to think,he's pretty and popular and every girl likes him and then there's me.I don't know what's going on in his mind and he said countless times he's in love...with me?What do u think?
I think you might have a pretty good chance there, so you should ask him out and see what he says!!
Anonymous: Is it weird that I'm in love with people I've never met (bands, the jonaskians , book characters )?? Like any of the people who ask me out are nowhere nearly as good as them ?? :)
I think a lot of people are “in love” with people like celebrities, fictional characters, etc. But I would make an effort to get to know real-life boys that you actually have a good chance with. You can’t ever really know a person’s personality whom you’ve never met/ spoken to. But you can meet someone who will love you and who you’ll fall in love with.
Anonymous: Why do you try to justify the ridiculousness of parents or people choosing an invisible figure over the children or people in their life's that they can help and they are supposed to nourish. That that is the only thing that they truly have forever, I myself have nothing against religion or religious people. But the fact that some people choose 'god' (sorry if I offend) over the people right in front of them in my opinion is just ridiculous and they truly have trouble facing reality.
Everyone had different beliefs, which aren’t really right or wrong, which I respect.
Anonymous: Again, its the religion thing, Sorry for having to keep asking about it, but no one seems to understand about it. My mom told me anyway that she chooses religion before family, that god comes first before anyone (even family). I'm drifting apart from my family and becoming closer to my friends.
Well like I said in the last ask, it’s okay to have different beliefs from your family. It’s not easy, but it’s okay. Even though you won’t find common ground necessarily in religion, they’re still your family and they love you, so I would make an effort to at least talk to/ hang out with them sometime.
Anonymous: I'm completely in love with a guy my family and friends hate. But, my close friends support us. My family hates him because he's not in the same religion as them. My friends hate him because he's apparently a whore and he's going to play me. Idk. he was supposed to move but he told his family he's staying because he can't leave me. I love him so much, but I don't know who to believe. I'm so lost.
Sometimes you have different beliefs from your family, and that’s okay. I would of course take their advice into consideration, but you have to follow your own heart because it’s your life, not theirs. I think your friends think he’s a whore for a reason, but like I said you just have to trust in yourself and what you want to do.
Anonymous: There is this guy at my school that acts very strange with me. About a year ago he asked me out and i said no because i didn't like him at all. After that he made me feel embarrassed so many times, so i started to dislike him a lot. The other day we were at the theatre with the school and he really made me feel very uncomfortable, he touched my back, he kissed my neck, and whenever i told him to stop he was like "sorry", but he continued. I don't know what to do, i can't take him anymore
I would really put my foot down and just say that you’re not okay with him doing that. If you don’t like him, you don’t like him, and him making you uncomfortable is not helping anything. He has to understand that and respect you and move on.
Anonymous: I'm the anon about the teacher. Forgot to put I'm 20! No jailbait or anything lol
Oh ok! That defo makes it not such a bad thing then :)
Anonymous: I think my boyfriend is gonna kiss me soon, and he knows I've never kissed anyone before and I know he has, and I'm kinda scared like idk what to do! I'm terrified..I'm 15 btw
Most of us over think those situations too much and end up making ourselves really nervous when there honestly is not to be afraid of :) of course it seems kind of daunting when you’ve never done it before but honestly it just kind of comes naturally. Just go with the flow and do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. Your first kiss may not be the best kiss you’ll ever have but you’ll learn from it :)